“Everything is always in motion. Every day, every moment, your life path is either curving upward, or curving downward. … People on the success curve or pulled by the future. People on the failure curve are pulled by the past.” Pg. 158 … “Either you let go of where you are and get to where you could be , or you hang on to where you are and give up where you could be. You are either going for your dreams or giving up your dreams. Stretching for what you could be, or settling for what you are. … Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not will to do, and that often means living outside the limits of one’s comfort zone.“ Pg. 166 - 167

The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson

   “How do habits change?...We know that a habit cannot be eradicated – it must, instead, be replaced…for a habit to changed, people must believe change is possible. And most often, that belief only emerges with help from a group” Pg. 92

The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

“The most popular TED speakers share something in common with the most engaging communicators in any field-a passion, an obsession they must share with others. The most popular TED speakers don’t have a ‘Job’. They have a passion an obsession, a vocation, but not a job. These people are called to share their ideas”. Pg. 18-19

“For years I started with the same question during my coaching sessions with my client-‘What are you passionate about?’ In the early stage of building a story, I don’t care about the product as much as I care about why the speaker is fired up about the product or service.” Pg 19

Talk Like TED by Charles Gallo


Note: One thing among many things I like about this book, is that ‘The Conclusion’, beginning on page 187, is a synopsis of the book and it’s guiding principles. Once you’ve read the book and want to apply a specific idea, you can quickly and easily find the segment. I’ve often used the ‘FIRE’ model (Pg. 45) in business and relationship coaching. I actually have the client draw the quadrants and apply the idea to their current situation.  

Truth at Work by Mark Murphy


“Sitting people down and lecturing them rarely works, because it makes them defensive – and when they’re defensive, they hide things from you. Work side by side with them in a cooperative activity, however, and you’ll lower their guard and get them to open up. That’s why hostage negotiators try to get hostage takers to commit to a shared activity, such as allowing food or medical supplies into a building. It’s also why the elders at an Amish barn-raising or quilting bee uncover more deep secrets than a spy in be with a drunken politician.” Pg. 164

Just Listen Mark Goulston

“Over the years, we’ve seen thousands of leaders learn that an important key to execution is putting disproportionate energy against the leverage points by focusing on moving lead measures. If you have a big rock to move, you’re going to need a lever that is highly predictive and controllable. The bigger the rock, the more leverage you will need.” Pg. 58 “Step 1. Demonstrate Respect … Step 2. Reinforce Accountability … Step 3. Encourage Performance” Pg. 184 - 185

Thanks for the Feedback by Douglas Stone & Sheila Heen


    “The power of coaching is that it leverages both (information – classes, seminars, books, events, and relationship) these key ingredients of transformation, engaging the unique life circumstances of the client within the context of a transparent, growth-oriented relationship. Transformation is both experiential and relational. Pg. 33 “Coaching is extremely effective at transforming people, …coaching is an outstanding way to accelerate growth and accomplish more, both at home and at work.” Pg. 36

Leadership Coaching by Tony Stoltzfus

     “Part of the difficulty in creating a fulfilling life starts with where clients have their attention. As they look for ways to have a more fulfilling life, they look at what they have … and what they don’t have … and see a gap … and then look for something to fill the gap – something that will make their lives more fulfilling. … As long as we continue to look for ways to have a fulfilling life, we are likely to be temporarily filled and constantly hungry Pg. 118

Co-Active Coaching by Whitworth, Karen and Henry Kimsey-house, Sandahl

“The five love language are, Words of Affirmation, Quality time, Receiving gifts, Acts of service, and Physical touch” Pg. 10  “Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English” Pg. 15 “When the emotional need for love is met, it creates a climate where the couple can deal with the rest of life in a much more productive manner.” Pg. 167Note: Beginning on Page 191 there is a simple easy Profile for both husbands and wives (Pg. 197) to help you discover your Love Language.

The Five Love Languages by Gary D. Chapman

    “Although you may feel your situation is unique, we have found that all marital conflicts, ranging from mundane annoyances to all-out wars, really fall into one of two categories: Either they can be resolved, or they are perpetual, which means they will be a part of your lives forever, in some form or another. Once you are able to define your various disagreements, you’ll be able to customize your coping strategies, depending on which of these two types of conflict you’re having” Pg. 129  “In the strongest marriages, husband and wife share a deep sense of meaning. They don’t just “get along” – they also support each other’s hopes and aspirations and build a sense of purpose into their lives together. That is really what I mean when I talk about honoring and respecting each other.” Pg. 23

 “What can make a marriage work is surprisingly simple. Happily married couples aren’t smarter, richer, or more psychologically astute than others. But in their day-to-day lives, they have hit upon a dynamic that keeps their negative thoughts and feelings about each other (which all couples have) from overwhelming their positive ones. They have what I call an emotionally intelligent marriage.” Pg. 3

Note: There are so many phenomenal exercises and insights into marriage, why some flourish and others fail (Predicting divorce with 91% accuracy Pg. 2-3), and how to enhance a great marriage and how to overcome failure.

Cherish by Gary Thomas
Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver (The Love Lab)

 “Scores of people-many of them Christians-come to my office looking for a medical solution to their particular marriage problem. While as an M.D. I can do a great deal to help medically, often there is greater need for me to first communicate biblical information which can heal wounds, restore relationships, and establish the right foundation for healthy attitudes toward sex in marriage. Knowing and understanding what God says about any phase of life leads to wholeness in that area; nowhere is this more necessary than in the sexual realm, where negative attitudes have virtually destroyed marriage relationships.” Pg. 19

Intended for Pleasure by Dr. Ed and Gaye Wheat